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Dating Advice: Should You Chase Your Crush?

Dating Advice: Should You Chase Your Crush?

My girlfriend and I had a talk sometime ago about technology and how it’s transformed and even hindered, to a degree, how we interact with one another. We went back and forth on the pros and cons about it all and came to a conclusion that people need to be reintroduced to face-to-face communication. No, no, I’m not talking about those slutty web cam sessions either… Hold on, I gotta pay for my next five minutes to Fee Fee McKnockers. Brb. I keed, I keed. The point is, though, that I think people need more face time and ways to open conversation. It’s not that hard, really. However, some people are gripped by shyness. That’s a problem and that’s why it’s so awesome to talk about a couple of ladies that are doing things differently. Kristen Moore and Tamera Lawrence are the brains, beauty and talent behind SingleTease.com. Looking to snag a free agent this offseason?

SingleTease seeks to do something a little different from all the other sites and services out there. Kristin and Tamera bring with them over twenty years of design experience and have tapped into that to help singles connect.imlive co They do that with clever cards and t-shirts that are visually appealing, clever and flirty all at once. You might think that they took a picture of me and put my face on a t-shirt. Right? Well, nope, they didn’t do that, instead they used their design acumen to produce some awesome products to help break the ice. Not only do they sell tees, but they sell clever cards to help break the ice, too. It’s not polite to stare, just call the person! Having met both of these enteprenuers recently, i will tell you that they are driven to create a quality product and address a need at the same time. That need is simply to help bring singles together. Their product line is a great way of doing that.

Every single (unattached) person needs help meeting other singles. If this were not true, online dating would not be a 700 million dollar industry. – SingleTease.com Kristin and Tamera of SingleTease I definitely recommend you check out SingleTease and look through their wares… Though, keep in mind I’m referring to the products and, you know, not the ladies… They probably wouldn’t appreciate that too much. In almost any case, tell em the Urban Dater sent ya. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook10Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Date Ideas, Dating Sites, Featured Tagged in: kristin moore, single tease, tamera lawrence Let’s face it, we all make mistakes in our relationships. Sometimes, a simple apology is enough to smooth things out. Other times, it takes a bit more effort to get yourself out of the dog house. If you’ve already reached your chocolate-and-roses quota in the relationship, and when a diamond bracelet might break the bank, there are plenty of ways to make sure your apology gets you back in your girlfriend’s good graces. Write It In a Letter In this day of email and text messaging, we don’t always put a lot of thought into the things we say to our loved ones. If you need to really say you’re sorry to someone, a letter or note can go a long way toward showing your sincerity.

When you’re writing it, make sure to keep it simple and humble, but don’t be afraid to add an inside joke to get her smiling. Writing a letter will show a deeper level of commitment and thought than a make-up text. Give a Gift After an apology, a gift can be a great way to back up the things you said or to reinforce your apology. A heartfelt gift can lend extra weight to your apology. There are thousands of gift options, but for real impact try something other than flowers and chocolate. The Serious Teddy Bear Co. offers an I’m Sorry teddy bear that can give a soft reminder of why she likes in you in the first place. When you’re choosing your gift, make sure it’s a meaningful and thoughtful gift, or it won’t have the effect you might be hoping for. A Nice Dinner Out As far as apologies go, this should be the icing on the cake, as a final way to clear the air over whatever caused your argument. Going out together while you’re both still upset will be awkward and not fun, so don’t try this one until you’re already on the mend. Once things are nearly back to normal, use a nice night out on the town, or a nice home-cooked meal, as a reminder of why you both are together. Put on your fancy slacks and create a fun date as a lasting apology. BnBFinder is a terrific source for romantic locations and attractions, so do a little research on the perfect makeup spot.

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Take a Trip Again, you want to be back on sold relationship ground before you try this one, but treating your lady to a weekend getaway can help reset any negative feelings and let you recharge your relationship. If she’s been dealing with visiting any particular location, or mentioned a nearby bed and breakfast, surprise her with a quick trip.

Change Your Behavior You’re probably pretty set in your ways at this point, but if your actions are causing friction with a person you love, it’s probably worth a little effort to alter your behavior to show you’re willing to change. You don’t need to completely change your personality, but if you can rein in hurtful behavior without sacrificing your identity, your relationship will benefit from it.   Nevertheless you choose to apologize for whatever indiscretion landed you in hot water, make sure you actually say or write the words, “I’m sorry.” A gift is only as good as the feelings behind it, so ensure that your girlfriend or wife knows that you’re actually sorry before you start working on the gifts.   Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook26Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Tips & Advice Tagged in: Apologize, Forgiveness, Gift, happy, relationship advice, Sorry The nightclub is a strange place when it comes to social value. Once you step inside, traditional rules of social status are stuffed in the most superficial cocktail shaker, spun around and spilled completely upside down. Sexy people now top the social pyramid. Stick-thin models are placed on a pedestal above entrepreneurs, paramedics and computer engineers. You could be a pediatrician who cures cancer in children, with a sublime sense of humor and a house in the Hollywood hills – but when that bass is pumping and also the dance-floor’s thumping, this barely matters. There are different rules to being cool once you’ve stepped beyond the doormen. Initially, it might seem like you have to be the handsome douche who blows his banknotes on bottles and tables, or the breakdancer with arms and abs designed by Greek gods. But you don’t.

There are certain behaviors that make you shine brighter than these stereotypes in the eyes of every babe at the bar… Step 1: Have the most fun If you enter early enough in the evening, it’s easy to forget how fun the club could be. Throughout the first few hours, you’ll see almost everyone seems to be stifled. People simply speak politely among their own friendship groups. We all go to bars to let our hair down, dance and maybe meet some cool people, but we’re initially limited by social anxiety. Even the babes and blokes popping expensive bottles are affected. Everyone waits for somebody else to get the party started. Alcohol plays a role in reducing this early evening anxiety, but it still takes those brave first few people for others to follow. Everyone is envious of the blokes who aren’t affected by their surroundings. Some may ridicule the lads dancing like idiots, or the charmers chancing their luck with the ladies, but deep down we all admire them. We all want to have fun without fearing what others think.

So, learn to let go and do whatever you want on that dance floor. Sing at the top of your lungs. Play a ridiculous drinking game. Share a stupid joke with a stranger. Be the sociable guy who shows other people it’s OK to have a great time. Step 2: Approach women Once you’re in a social mood and spot a sexy girl, go and flirt with her. Do it properly though… Don’t half-heartedly leave your hand for her to keep. Don’t dry-hump her bum for half a hour (Seriously has this worked for anyone outside of secondary school?).https://topadultreview.com/ Step up to her like a normal human and say ‘Hi’. It might sound simple, but the ability to do this will automatically make you one of the coolest men in the club. Most blokes aren’t able to do it without putting on a front, freezing up, or being too drunk to function. Hotties are so used to being hit on by guys with no game, that they’ll often become attracted just because you’re not intimidated by them. Step 3: Show empathy The hottest chicks will often throw tests in the first few minutes of an discussion. They might be rude or disinterested. They’ll harbor a natural skepticism towards your intentions, as we all do when approached by strangers. Don’t be offended by these tests.

Bear in mind that most hot women will have already been hit on by a handful of assholes. They might have had a hard time. Their high heels might be hurting their feet. The coolest guy in the club is sympathetic towards these issues. He might flirt, tease and compliment her, but he won’t expect anything in return. He wants nothing other than for her to feel safe and comfortable enough to have a fun time. He just wants to spread the party. Men who genuinely maintain this mindset will rarely get rejected. The only real reason a girl can reject this type of guy is because she’s too grumpy to have a good time.

Step 4: Move the party The man who is fun, flirtatious and empathetic will probably be the life of the party. Once the club begins to die down, he might decide to find the nearest diner or put on an after party, and he’ll hardly have to do anything to get girls to tag along.

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Girls gravitate to fun and good times. If they feel comfortable and able to have fun around this guy, why would they decline his invite? So, don’t dither around. Grab the girl you fancy and have a plan of action. Be the guy who keeps the party going when you both get home. Don’t be afraid to move things forward once you’ve got your girl alone. Step up your flirting, get a bit physical, but always ensure she remains comfortable. By the time it moves to the bedroom, it’ll be her making the first move. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook6Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships Tagged in: clubbing, Dating, nightclub, Relationships When I first signed up for online dating over a decade ago, I failed miserably. In fact, I practically made failing an art form.

The constant rejection and lack of acknowledgment led me to believe that something was personally wrong with me. I mean, literally no women would respond to me. Was I truly that awful? Fast forward to the present, and I have had more success online than any man could dream of—I wasn’t the problem. The way I was approaching online dating was. While there are many mistakes I made over the years, today I’d like to cover 3 of the biggest mistakes that will destroy your online dating success, since they’re all connected. Not telling the right story with your photos When I first started online dating, I posted a couple of photos just standing alone in my house. Ok, ok, I confess. It’s worse than that. I had two pictures standing alone in front of the bathroom mirror. In my defense, this was before the days of smartphones and the ability to take selfies.

 I know, I’m dating myself tremendously.  But still, pretty sad! Posting a couple of pictures by yourself, even if they look good, is the wrong approach if you wish to have online dating success. Your photos are an opportunity to tell a visual story about who you are, along with visual stories about your passions, interests, friends, families, hobbies, and more. You need to take advantage of this opportunity by presenting a visual slideshow that jumps off the page and makes others instantly take notice. A great photo gallery will provide people with an in-depth view of who you are, where you’ve been, and where you are going in life. Some pictures that tend to bring great success are: Animal photos Vacation pictures Adventure pictures Family pictures Photos with friends Humorous pictures Pictures that portray success in subtle ways (nobody likes a brag) Volunteering pictures Playing sports Outdoors activities Accomplishments Poor profile writing  My original profile was filled with cliches and oozed with feelings of desperation.  There was nothing unique, fun, or exciting about it at all.

 If I didn’t give people a reason to get excited about my profile, why should anyone else be? To stand out from the competition, I needed to understand that there was an art to profile writing.  I needed to make my writing conversational, give it a personality, avoid cliches, use positive sounding language, provide it with the right structure, add plenty of humor, etc. Once I took the time to create a profile that actually focused on accomplishing the feats mentioned above, as well as some other tactics, I had the groundwork laid out for online dating success.  My visual story and written story combined for a perfect 1-2 punch that instantly had others intrigued. Generic email writing Having an ideal profile was a huge action. But it didn’t get me to the finish line—this is because the highest quality singles online receive a lot of emails.  To create them take notice, I couldn’t just be generic with my writing. Just saying hello, telling women that I thought we had a lot in common, and uninspired small discuss commonalities was  not enough to bring me online dating success. Neither were overly long emails or emails that tried to flatter women into liking me.  I needed to be to write emails that ignited immediate interest. So how did I accomplish that?  The has, and always will be, by initiating with something humorous.

Now that I had an ideal profile, when I made women laugh with my emails, they responded.  Just about every time.  In fact, my response rate was well over seventy percent. At the end of the day, humor is the universal language that makes everyone perk up and take notice.  A playful comment, followed by an easy to answer the question will put you leaps and bounds above your competition towards getting noticed. Joshua Pompey is an online dating expert and has been referred to as “the best online dater in the world” by the media.  For more free online dating advice from Joshua Pompey for men, click here.  Women, click here. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, For Men, For Women, Online Dating Tagged in: Online Dating, online dating advice, online dating success, online dating success for men, online dating success for women, online dating tips, success with online dating I quite love your little black gown. Are you in need of a personal servant? A mochaccino? Massage?

Anything at all! I’m you’re dude! If I am Super Man then the Little Black Dress is undoubtedly my Kryptonite, rendering me into a state of enervated goo. It’s quite a pathetic site really. However, I cannot help this; I’m genetically predisposed to be wooed silly by any woman, regardless of the shape or size of the woman who dons the Little Black Dress. Why? When or where did this obsession come from? Maybe I masturbated to one too many Sears catalogs as a youth… errr.. or as a thirty something. Who knows? I know that this fascination of black dresses began at a funeral. When I was a kid, Stan Levi fell from his roof to his sudden demise. The back story with Stan is that the man was a bit of a perv and he loved wearing overalls. I’ve since come to the conclusion that overalls and sexual depravity are mutually inclusive.

Anyway, the funeral was littered with women and these black dresses, most of them not so little. Except for one: Mrs. Farnsworth, my 5th grade teacher; when Mrs. Farnsworth was my teacher I didn’t notice her, women and girls still had cooties and were generally gross. At the funeral I was in 7th grade and I’d grown more curious and fond of girls… But Mrs. Farnsworth; something clicked within me. I had an instant crush on Mrs. Farnsworth and those legs! Even if she didn’t quite remember me ( I was a creepy turd of a kid that people would rather not remember… kind sounds like my adult life, too. Shut up!). I would always remember her. A well worn Little Black Dress exudes confidence all by itself; just add woman, serve sultrily.

The trim and cut add another dimension. Just how much of the “show” will a woman let you see? The Little Black Dress taunts me; it demands my attention like that asshole at baseball games that keeps on calling players’ sexuality into question. You know THAT guy, don’t you? It’s probably your dad. Just sayin’.  Needless to say, the call of the Little Black Dress is relentless as is its raw intercourse appeal. Most any first date with a woman wearing a Little Black Dress finishes with me wanting more, sometimes getting it, if not then ,even more exciting , I’m left wanting, yearning, for more… Is it possible for a little piece of clothing to make a woman walk… sexier; to create that woman saunter? With each click-clacked step her raw sexuality is put on display; she cranes her head from one side to the other, playfully flicking her hair about exposing the nape of her neck and her shoulders. What I would give to gently caress them for but a second; with each step she makes her legs flex and ripple with every slink and sway, much like a beckoning “come here” motion from an index finger… I am powerless; I am gawking; I am stupid; I am Jack’s pensive futility… Without question, my answer is resoundingly “yes!” You women; you don’t wear a Little Black Dress.

It wears you! When put together, you make me so very, very imbecilic. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Asides, Self Tagged in: Little black dress, sexuality, women When you go searching for dating advice online, you’ll probably notice that the majority of the resources are geared toward introvert/extrovert relationships. Yes, I know that opposites attract, been there, done that. But when I was in a relationship with an extrovert, my introvert-self felt pressured to go out, to hang out when all I wanted to do was stay in, insecure (and annoyed) when he couldn’t understand how I’d rather read a book than be with him. So, when I met someone more my very own speed, I couldn’t help but think he’s my long-lost heart mate. It started slowly, we texted a lot since talking on the phone made both of us cringe. Later, most of our date nights revolved around watching Parks and Rec and whatever movie was on TV.

We spent our time daydreaming about our future life together, and everything seemed perfect. However, eventually, the little items that brought us together began tearing us apart. Everything was ideal in our imagination, but in real life? Not so much. Here are some things I wish I had known before I started rolling my eyes each time I saw him. Step into the Real World Once in a While One of the hallmarks of introverts is the ability to fantasize. We imagine the perfect life and the perfect partner, but that can easily get in the way of real life. No one and nothing is perfect, and seeking perfection is a sure way to be let down. He couldn’t live up to my expectations and, being an introvert himself, he immediately noticed when I started questioning our relationship.

Truth to be told, I am not perfect, either. But he only realized later, when he had already created an image of the perfect girlfriend, everything he had ever wanted.